60 Ways to Be Sexy Naturally

60 Ways to Be Sexy Naturally...

No Boob Job, Tummy Tuck, Hair Dye, or Harsh Chemical Products Required!

1. Exercise daily - Work up a sweat!

2. Apply natural Lipstick, Lip Balm or Lip GLOSS, whichever you LOVE!

3. Get enough sleep

4. Have sex

5. Stand tall with grace and poise

6. Smile

7. Laugh

8. Flirt

9. Dance

10. Wink

11. Kiss - peck, French, any kiss works

12. Embrace

13. Listen

14. Be open-minded

15. Be inquisitive

16. Be quiet at times during conversation

17. Be understanding

18. Make eye contact

19. Take up a hobby that you are passionate about

20. Wear clothes that fit and that you are comfortable and feel sexy in

21. Have body confidence

22. Light a candle

23. Display fresh flowers

24. Cook a delicious meal

25. Be kind

26. Be laid back

27. Know what (color and style) you look good in and wear it * see #20

28. Take good care of your teeth

29. Scrub or dry brush your skin and apply grapeseed oil or natural lotion to moisturize

30. Mix essential oils and wear for a natural, light fragrance

31. Keep fingernails and toenails trimmed, filed, and buffed

32. Keep your hands and feet moisturized

33. Give a foot rub

34. Do a favor

35. Be gentle

36. Spend time in nature

37. Have confidence

38. Offer grace

39. Get a little sunshine

40. Say yes when you want to and no when you want to

41. Be content

42. Do some form of toning exercises regularly

43. Touch

44. Refrain from arguing

45. Give a back rub

46. Take a bubble bath

47. Be honest

48. Enjoy fresh food

49. Drink a glass of wine or a cocktail

50. Share a gourmet chocolate bar and eat it slowly

51. Be mindful

52. Skinny dip

53. Walk barefoot on the beach

54. Let your hair down

55. Open your heart

56. Drink plenty of water

57. Express gratitude

58. Keep learning

59. Give a compliment

60. Wear a dress or skirt

 

For more ways to cultivate happiness, health, confidence and wealth, please visit my website at www.ithrive365.net.

Coming Down from Digital MPD

Digital Multiple Personality Disorder

That's it!  I've had it.  No more multiple personalities within my digital personalities.
I now have the following:

one website - http://www.ithrive365.net/default.html,
one email address - andreawilliamssilver@gmail,
one Facebook Profile - https://www.facebook.com/#!/andreawilliamssilver,
one Blog - YOU ARE HERE!,
one Twitter account - https://twitter.com/AndreaSilver,
one Linked In Profile - http://www.linkedin.com/pub/andrea-silver/42/3ba/7b1,

and (I think) that is all.

WHEW!  I feel better than when I had four email addresses and two Facebook Pages on top of my Facebook Profile.  My Facebook Page is going away soon, so subscribe to my profile (using the link above) if you like what my page offers in regard to tips and resources for healthy living.

Do you know when to say no?  Where do you draw the line?  Is all the digital media terrific because it helps you stay "connected," perhaps even expansive as it helps you grow your business, but somehow it is suffocating you at the same time?  Well, if getting online makes you anxious and you find yourself wondering if one more profile will be the solution to all of your worldly problems, then I assure you it is time to make some changes.  What will that change be for you?  What makes sense? Eliminating one email account?  Consolidating websites?  Canceling a Twitter or Linked In Profile?  Or would completely updating one of these profiles or accounts and getting it current give you the breath of fresh air you need?  Is it time to hire help?  Is it time to set tighter boundaries around when you get online?  What is the solution?

I hope this post inspires you to throw down the anchor for a while and spend some time quietly reflecting on where you are with this and ask yourself what your soul needs right now.  Remember, you are in charge, even if at times it feels like social media controls you.  Repair the holes in your war torn sails.  Then set sail once again and let the wind carry you in the direction you choose rather than having your ship tossed around wildly at sea.  For more information on healthy living, please visit my website @ www.ithrive365.net where I inspire others to be well and thrive!

Silencing Your Inner Critic: When Your Higher Self Finds It's Voice

An important thing happened when I was taking my Integrative Health Coaching Professional Training at Duke University.  My inner critic got a visual image (which I drew, and she is awesome), a name (Fly Lady), and she got an OBSERVER!  Yahoo!  A referee finally showed up to run interference on my behalf during the quarrel between fear and love that takes place in my mind.  In other words, for the first time, my inner critic had an active observer who could call her on the BS. 

Not silencing the inner critic looks like staying in a bad marriage because "divorce is wrong, and you'll damage the kids"  saying yes to every community, school, or work event because "a good person would contribute," not putting yourself out there because "you're not good enough, or you'll screw up," never taking care of your own needs because "a good mom would never put herself first," staying up all hours of the night taking care of household responsibilities because "it is a woman's work," not working out because "that would be selfish," and many other self-defeating behaviors.

We are able to silence the inner critic by cultivating the voice of it's loving observer.  The observer has an agenda that is pure.  The observer is our defender.  She is our partner in crime when it comes to living an authentic life and being fulfilled rather than deprived.  A powerful tool to amplify this loving voice is practicing mindfulness and meditation.  Mindfulness is paying attention on purpose to the present moment without judgement. And meditation is a formal practice of mindfulness. There are many different forms of meditation.  One type of meditation that can be very helpful in silencing the inner critic is the practice of loving kindness meditation.  Another way to develop your loving observer is by saying positive affirmations. An example of a positive affirmation that would be helpful in cultivating the voice of your higher self is, "I am worthy of love and I make choices in life that align with my highest good."  When we practice saying affirmations daily our thought patterns begin to change.  Other stress-reducing activities like exercising and communicating openly with others who have our best interests at heart can also be beneficial. 

So if you are ready to silence your inner critic, it is time for your higher self to step up to the plate and start calling the fouls.  Utilize these tools and when your higher self finds her voice the conversations in your head will take on a different tone, and your life will change.

Who is Taking Care of You? 12 Simple Steps to Live with Passion & Thrive

Taking Care of You!

I love this creative collage on taking care of you.  As I sat down to write this article I began to peruse pictures online.  I found one I liked a lot with a lady doing a yoga pose on a beach.  Then I realized I hadn't had lunch or practiced my favorite morning yoga routine. Oops!   So I went downstairs and prepared myself some fresh, nutritious and delicious, real food, ate it, did yoga, and now I am back at the keyboard writing. 

How easy is it to allow life to get in the way of taking care of ourselves?  I find it very easy.  We must make self-care simple and it is extremely helpful to create routines for wellness that are built into our ordinary days.  Adding anything above and beyond like spa days, vacations, or retreats is fantastic, but is only icing on the cake!  Don't wait for the occasional vacation to enjoy life and thrive while barely getting by during the time in between.  Most of us only spend 2-6 weeks on vacation so do not deprive yourself of living fully and taking good care of yourself during the other 46-50 weeks each year.  It is possible to live an ordinary life with passion and to thrive every day.

12 Simple Steps to Live with Passion & Thrive:

1.  Drink plenty of water.
2.  Eat nutritious, unprocessed foods.
3.  Get enough restorative sleep.
4.  Embrace your sexuality.  Adults, enjoy (safe) sex every day.
5.  Do work that you love, and that is meaningful.
6.  Create a nurturing physical environment at home and at work.
     Identify places that restore your spirit and energize you, and spend time there.
7.  Cultivate spirituality.  Tell God thank you every day.  Meditate.  Pray.  Journal gratitude.
8.  Nurture your relationships, including with yourself!  Communicate.  Set healthy boundaries.
     Say affirmations. 
9.  Play!  Have fun, laugh, and be creative.  Be spontaneous sometimes.
10.  Exercise at least 30 minutes a day, ideally outside. (See #11)
11.  Expose yourself to sunshine for at least 15 minutes daily, preferably and hour.  Wear sunscreen.
12.  Keep learning and remain open-minded.

Be well and thrive by engaging in each of these activities every day!

Rainy Day Pleasures

I love the rain!  Rain is like permission from God to do nothing.  Or anything.  It magnifies my playfulness, my willingness to rest, and evokes positive emotions in me.  It is like soul food.  It is as if someone is whispering, "Go ahead and do whatever you'd like today.  Forget about whatever it is that you thought you were going to do."  Rain brings back memories of childhood pleasures.  As a child, when it rained I was more playful and creative.  I did things I normally would not do like make homemade play dough, go out in the far back yard where water stood and collect crawfish in a bucket, or go to the ditch in the side yard where water flowed and drop things in and watch them float away with the stream.  It was as if the agenda had been cleared and I had license to freedom, glorious freedom. 

Rain is refreshing for the earth and for my spirit.  Today, I am going to embrace the feelings of freedom, playfulness, and passion that the rain has delivered to me as a gift.  I may or may not burn my favorite candle and listen to inspiring music while I tack and string our summer bucket list creatively and colorfully on my bedroom wall.  I may or may not prepare fresh guacamole and eat gourmet chocolate, enjoying a healthful indulgence.  I may or may not sip hot tea while I create a new lesson for my Healthy Living ecourse.  I may or may not take a blissful nap.  (Gasp!) 

I've got laundry going and will certainly "be productive" today in a myriad of ways.  Yet, a sense of freedom and adventure will be the filter through which I decide what to do and how to do it. I will listen to my heart speak to me as a loving guide, creating a bright kaleidoscope in the wake of my chosen behavior.  I will be a pleasure seeker.  I will be mindful and take experiences in through each of my senses.  I might take off my flip flops and walk in the flowing fresh water at the end of the driveway.  I might sniff the banana, peaches and pineapple I blend into a smoothie, as well as the juicy mango I slice and chop for my son.  I might hug and kiss each of my children and tell them I love them.  I might rub my favorite peppermint lotion on my feet and legs and enjoy the rejuvenating cool/warm feeling and the incredible fragrance it brings.  Or maybe, just maybe, I will forget about it all and simply lie down on my bed and read a novel, or rest and listen to the rain.  Who knows?  The glory of this day is that anything goes...after all, it is raining!

Intentional Acts of Kindness

As we wrap up 21 Days of Gratitude, I am truly grateful!  Grateful for the journey and thankful for those who joined me.  I will continue gratitude as a daily practice as it has changed my life in a powerful way.  It is true, the Tetris Effect has taken over, and I am constantly noticing what is good and beautiful in my world.  Studies show that practicing gratitude daily makes us happier and I have found this to be true in my life.

Next we will practice 21 Days of Intentional Acts of Kindness.  Like gratitude, practicing intentional acts of kindness (daily) has the power to increase our baseline for happiness.  In other words, when we extend kindness toward others as a daily practice, WE actually become happier.  Not to mention what it does for the people we are extending kindness to.  And it doesn't stop there.  So please join me as we change our little corner of the world one intentional act of kindness at a time, from one human being to another.

Intentional acts of kindness can be built into our routines for ease and habit formation.  That is how I suggest you begin.  So designate a time every day when you will dedicate 5 minutes to performing 1-5 intentional acts of kindness.  This can be sending an email (or 5) letting someone know you appreciate them.  It can be bringing in the morning paper.  It can be popping in on a coworker for an authentic, face-to face, "Good morning, how are you doing?" check in.  Whatever it is, keep it simple, and build it into your day.  Do it very day for the next 21 days.  And let it be something that you can continue after the 21 days.  You can also sprinkle intentional acts of kindness throughout your day doing things such as paying for a cup of coffee for the next guy in line, letting the person behind you at the grocery store go first, making a meal for your family, letting someone merge in traffic, smiling at a stranger, picking up trash on the street, putting your cart back at the grocery store, letting the frantic person at the airport go through security in front of you, cleaning up someone else's mess...the list goes on.  Have fun with it and see how many different ways you can practice intentional acts of kindness, besides during your routine practice time.

For other terrific ideas on intentional acts of kindness I recommend reading http://metropolitanmama.net/2009/06/17-intentional-acts-of-kindness/.
I look forward to our journey!

An Herbivore Among Meat Eaters

I recently celebrated a birthday and my gift to myself was a vegetarian diet.  (Shh!!!)  Vegetarianism is a concept I have been admiring and courting for a long time, and I am very excited to venture into this new, healthier way of nourishing my body!  So far so good, except that I am now a plant eater among meat eaters.  So I am giving it a shot for one year and then I will reassess, based on how I feel.  I have been told that I will feel much better, have more energy, and I am aware of the health benefits which is the engine which is powering this locomotive of change.

Vegetarianism is an unspeakable phenomenon to the rest of my family.  If my husband had his way a meal would consist of brisket and a hamburger (hold the veggies) with a side of ribs and ham with bacon crumbles for dessert.  Vegetables for him are beans, pasta and potatoes.  To complicate matters further, I have four boys and when I serve a meatless meal I get questions and worried looks from at least two of them.  My husband just scavenges the refrigerator for animal products to add to the meal.  He could make a burrito out of baked ziti using slices of roast beef.  But my son eyes a casserole with fearful curiosity.  If there's no meat, it is ruined for him.  He'll ask, "Does that have meat in it!?!" with an energetic combination of discontent and doubt, foreshadowing a potential emotional meltdown.  Then he will proceed to eat the meal in a very dejected manner.

So as a vegetarian among a meat-eating family, I am left with only one realistic choice: serve meat!  But to satisfy my new dietary desires, I am adding a lot more veggie dishes to the tableside spread, along with the meat, which I now quietly avoid.  Hopefully this will result in my boys eating more vegetables, too.  I have not yet told them that I am opting out of their carnivorous ways.  That information in itself would have them categorize me into another clan, an outsider of sorts.  So for now I will just continue with business as usual at mealtime and discreetly opt out of partaking of the meat offering at the dinner table.  Oh, and I am going to continue eating seafood, so I will cook it more often.  Maybe that will confuse everyone and secure my cover...